Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Deadline.

We received an update on Little Boy. The state has gotten involved because of the length of time he's been in the system without any move toward adoption. They have given Little Boy's caseworker until February 24th to name a family.

The situation is maddening. We submitted our interest in adoption more than two months ago! All I've been told is that his agency started the process of contacting a past adoptive family to see whether or not they're interested in adopting Little Boy. If the family is not interested in adoption, Little Boy's caseworker will have to recruit another family.

I'm not upset that the agency is giving preference to a family that has adopted some of Little Boy's siblings; I'm upset that they're just now being contacted. Little Boy has been in six foster care homes in his short two years of life. Parental' rights were terminated six and twelve months ago and Ben and I submitted our assessment for consideration of adoption in late November.

Why then was he put on our state's website in effort to recruit a family? Was our assessment discarded? Misplaced?

I am trying my best to remain neutral, here, but I want to bring Little Boy home. I'm thankful for the state's involvement, now, and a definite deadline. I am praying that God will move in Little Boy's case and bring him the best fitting family in the next ten days, recognizing that it may not be us....

...but hoping, begging, and pleading with the Lord that it is.

Little Boy has been through a lot.

It's time for him to live the life of a typical two year old and I know just the right two year old to show him how...

18 comments:

  1. I'll be praying with you, Rebekah!

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  2. Praying for this situation! I can only imagine how frustrating the waiting & the unknowns must be...

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  3. Hmmmmmmm I will be interested to hear what happens

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  4. I'm still praying with you! This little boy's story makes me both sad and angry. It's not fair that this poor little guy has been bounced around so much. Especially seeing that parental rights have been terminated AND there is a family wanting nothing more than to take him home and give him a family! Stories like his have a very special place in my heart. Fifteen years ago tomorrow my cousin arrived in Chicago from the Philippines and became a part of our family. He had just turned 7 and my aunt had been waiting for 5 years to bring him home. The first picture I saw of him is etched so clearly in my mind. He was living in an orphanage after he was found wandering down a highway when he was two years old. Because so much was unknown (he didn't know his last name, birthday, city he came from, parents names, etc.) the adoption process was a long one. Every child deserves to have a family! So glad the state has gotten involved! I'll be praying hard! I hope your next post is an announcement of a new addition to your family!

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  5. I'm still praying with you! This little boy's story makes me both sad and angry. It's not fair that this poor little guy has been bounced around so much. Especially seeing that parental rights have been terminated AND there is a family wanting nothing more than to take him home and give him a family! Stories like his have a very special place in my heart. Fifteen years ago tomorrow my cousin arrived in Chicago from the Philippines and became a part of our family. He had just turned 7 and my aunt had been waiting for 5 years to bring him home. The first picture I saw of him is etched so clearly in my mind. He was living in an orphanage after he was found wandering down a highway when he was two years old. Because so much was unknown (he didn't know his last name, birthday, city he came from, parents names, etc.) the adoption process was a long one. Every child deserves to have a family! So glad the state has gotten involved! I'll be praying hard! I hope your next post is an announcement of a new addition to your family!

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  6. I will be praying for a loving forever family for Little Boy, as well as strength for you. God has a plan for all four of you!

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  7. How extremely frustrating. God does have a plan for this little boy. Praying the agency will be open to hearing His plan.

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  8. Uggghh, working in the system, this maddens me. I see things like this happening every day and I work tirelessly advocating for the little ones our agency serves. This is not ok! Thinking of this little boy and your family during this time of wondering...

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  9. Praying that God Brings that little boy home to join your family!

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  10. I am so frustrated for this little boy. There are so many things I don't understand about the "Protective" agencies that are supposed to serve these kids. As best I can tell it's not a whole kind of protection of mind, body, and spirit. I think case workers, judges, and so many involved become overwhelmed and it's like, "Hey kids, you aren't starving right now, and no one is hitting you," so we are doing our job. That is not what they teach you in training, but that is the reality I have seen many times. I would love to see the day where Protective Services evolve from a long-term "holding" area for abused kids to more of a healing center for abused kids. So often the "system" aggravates the wounds rather than helping to heal them.

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  11. Oh my goodness, I know those little eyes. We got the same story and I am praying he finds himself in loving AND stable arms. He deserves better than what the system is giving him! I wish there was a way to start a petition on his behalf...maybe you can figure that out. :) I'll sign it!

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  12. Praying so hard for this situation!!! And, those eyes? So sweet, so beautiful.

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  13. Praying that he gets to join your 2 yr old and all become one happy, loving family!

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  14. Praying for Little Boy and your family. I have been away from the blogging world for a while, but was re-reading some of my posts and you had commented on a post where I was talking about the waiting time trying to adopt. Our son is now 14 months old and I can't imagine our life without him. I know I want another child in our life at some point...so I know the waiting will come again. But I am trusting in God for His timing. Will continue to pray for your family in this journey!

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  15. Praying for your family and Little Boy! We've fostered for many years and have adopted some of our foster children. I'm not sure if all states follow the same guidelines, but here even though you are adopting a specific child who has been in your home for foster, the state has to post them as being available for adoption on the website. It makes no sense to me, but it's all about federal monies the state receives for each adoption. Praying you hear good news soon!!
    Kellye

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  16. Maybe it was a God thing. He out that little boy on the website so u would see it and advocate for him!!! -Kriss

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  17. I'm still praying for the best outcome for this little boy, a wonderful home - like yours.

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  18. Rebekah...we just brought our boys home, and let me tell you. If this child is yours, you will know it. If you know it, then don't "try to not be a nuisance." FIGHT LIKE HELL for him. We literally had to break the rules in order to get an "illegal" copy of our homestudy in on our boys...and we were told that our homestudy was delivered MINUTES before they were going to choose between seven families for our boys. Ours was walked in the door, they said "Why not...we'll just read it" and the rest is history.

    God doesn't always just dump His will into our laps or at our doorstep. Sometimes he shows us His will and we have to fight for it. Sometimes, we have to march around the walls of Jericho blowing our trumpets and crying out to God until the walls crumble down so we can make it to the promised land. If this baby is your promised land, then get to tootin', Mama!

    Praying for grace and mercy on your path!

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