Okay, so I got the second best phone call a girl in my shoes can get [technically it should probably be the third best phone call, since baby boy being born would be the second...]
Rebekah called me last night! We had exchanged phone numbers last week, but I left the ball in her court for the first call, because I wanted it to be on her schedule, when she was ready, etc. I had punched her numbers into my phone so that when she called I would know it was her.
The phone rang just as I was getting my pj's on and slipping into bed for some laptop time. I jumped out of my skin when I saw her name and started running around like a mad woman (she'll probably laugh when she reads this because I played it "cool" when I finally did answer!) Do I say "hello?" Do I go grab Ben? Yikes, what do I do? I don't know why I was so nervous, but I felt like a young girl being asked out on a date for the first time!
I ran to my room, jumped in bed and had the best two hour conversation I've ever had...and it was with my baby's mama!! I'm not a huge phone talker, but I could have talked to her for hours [oh, wait...we did!] It was so fun hearing her voice and heart (in real life) for the first time. Our social worker had already prepped me that she was bubbly and full of life. She was right.
We talked about everything under the sun and I left the conversation with an inner confidence that we would be friends for life. We talked about her kids, the baby, our upcoming trip out there, our infertility, her choice for adoption. It was as natural as talking to my best girlfriend.
I was thinking about our conversation this morning on my way into work and I had a small "aha!" moment. The reason Ben and I have such an incredible, through-the-roof, kind of marriage is because we've chosen to view each other through the eyes of God and we love each other more than we love ourselves. Rebekah and I have the same relationship. She wants what's best for me, I want what's best for her, and we both want the best life possible for baby boy. We consider each other's feelings and prefer the other Rebekah.
It's such a beautiful picture of who God is...and Rebekah is a direct reflection of him.