Friday, March 6, 2009

Day 311

Okay, so I got the second best phone call a girl in my shoes can get [technically it should probably be the third best phone call, since baby boy being born would be the second...]

Rebekah called me last night! We had exchanged phone numbers last week, but I left the ball in her court for the first call, because I wanted it to be on her schedule, when she was ready, etc. I had punched her numbers into my phone so that when she called I would know it was her.

The phone rang just as I was getting my pj's on and slipping into bed for some laptop time. I jumped out of my skin when I saw her name and started running around like a mad woman (she'll probably laugh when she reads this because I played it "cool" when I finally did answer!) Do I say "hello?" Do I go grab Ben? Yikes, what do I do? I don't know why I was so nervous, but I felt like a young girl being asked out on a date for the first time!

I ran to my room, jumped in bed and had the best two hour conversation I've ever had...and it was with my baby's mama!! I'm not a huge phone talker, but I could have talked to her for hours [oh, wait...we did!] It was so fun hearing her voice and heart (in real life) for the first time. Our social worker had already prepped me that she was bubbly and full of life. She was right.

We talked about everything under the sun and I left the conversation with an inner confidence that we would be friends for life. We talked about her kids, the baby, our upcoming trip out there, our infertility, her choice for adoption. It was as natural as talking to my best girlfriend.

I was thinking about our conversation this morning on my way into work and I had a small "aha!" moment. The reason Ben and I have such an incredible, through-the-roof, kind of marriage is because we've chosen to view each other through the eyes of God and we love each other more than we love ourselves. Rebekah and I have the same relationship. She wants what's best for me, I want what's best for her, and we both want the best life possible for baby boy. We consider each other's feelings and prefer the other Rebekah.

It's such a beautiful picture of who God is...and Rebekah is a direct reflection of him.


  1. I'm so happy for you!!!
    What a special blessing to be able to talk to Rebekah!

    I prayed for you last night, that you would get a good night's sleep.
    I bet after that conversation you were too excited to go to sleep.
    I also prayed for you this morning,
    that you would have a good day today.

    I hope that you have many more special conversations with Rebekah both before and after baby boy is born. That's so neat that you feel comfortable talking to her!

    Thanks for sharing this special milestone with your "fans".

    Have a good day, sweetie.


  2. That makes me smile.

    I just found your blog and now read it everyday. I hope soon I'll be able to say, we are adopting a baby too!!

  3. This post made me smile, Our God is soooooo GOOD!! -K

  4. This gave me chills. What an amazing life you now have. Only to be made better upon Baby Boy's arrival. Such a blessing.

  5. Too cool! I would have been running around like a mad woman too hehe.

  6. smiling so big for you through tears of happiness at what is unfolding before you. :)

  7. Now that's what I'm talking about!!! This is what open adoption should be all about. Two families working for a common goal...looking out for eachother and keeping the baby's best interest at heart.

    I'm so very, very, very happy for you both!

  8. Yay! I love love LOVE getting updates. I'm so happy for you and i love what your relationship represents for the whole adoption community!

  9. Wow, that is awesome...any time you can have an effortless two-hour conversation with someone the very first time, you know it's special! :) I am so happy for you and also very happy that you will have an opportunity to truly get to know Rebekah during this precious time.


  10. I am so smiling right now ... :)

  11. Your relationship with Rebekah gives me hope! How great is our God that he shows us his love through the love of others, and that we can demonstrate his love to others by loving them is just as huge a gift/blessing!

    I've always said the same thing about marriage, it isn't a percentage of effort, it's caring for your spouse more than you care about yourself, you put their feelings first, and your own second. If both of you are looking out for one another there is no reason to look out for #1, someone else has you under control! :D

    May God continue to bless your relationship with Ben AND with the mother of your son!! :D

  12. love it. So excited for you. What an incredible relationship this is growing into.

  13. Yea! So happy for you :) Upcoming trip, huh? When??!! How exciting!!! Love you; we need to catch up soon!

  14. What an awesome post!!! I remember talking to Heather for the first was right after we were matched. Dave and I both were on the phone...I was SOOO overwhelmed with emotion, I think she was the one calming ME down (not the other way around) LOL! When we got off the phone, Dave said to me, "You know you THANKED her 37 times" !!!! LOL Heather and I STILL laugh about that all the time!!!HA!

  15. Aha!!! That is why there wasn't a blog post last night (I looked for one)! How wonderful and I am so happy for you guys!

  16. ahh I just love this warms my heart and gives me hope! I am so happy for you and ben and you baby boy and also Rebekah..she is joining a wonderful family too!

    m :)

  17. You are such a great writer! I feel your joy, sorrow, peace, and everything you feel, when you write. I am very excited for you girls and that cutie little boy. Sorry also to hear you both have been getting a lot of crap from onlookers. I do have to say it would be a sad day for the rest of the world if you stopped blogging about baby boy, we would miss out on the best story ever told,,, well, except for the bible story I guess. *wink*
    I love your spirit Rebekah, ur a pretty neeto cheekah!

    Positive Onlooker

  18. That's wonderful that you had such a great conversation with Rebekah. From your writing, I can tell how much better you must be feeling than when you wrote your other post a few days ago. I'm so glad. I laughed that you wrote that you were running around like crazy...I can picture doing the same thing!

    So happy for you!

  19. That is so great. I think it's wonderful that the two of you hit it off so well. I can tell that you have developed an everlasting bond.

  20. that is so awesome, i am so glad you guys are building such a great relationship!

  21. Just beautiful... your joy shows so much in your writing! Thank you for sharing this special time. It's been incredible to watch the relationship between you grow.