Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Miss Rebekah

Today, while LJ was napping, Ty asked to hear his "baby adoption story." He loves to hear that we drove all night to watch him be born and that he cried as soon as he "popped out of Miss Rebekah's belly." He had more commentary, today, than I've ever heard. It was really cute hearing him reason why he was crying (it was because he was "so SO hungry"). For the first time, I told Ty that Rebekah was really, really sad when we left the hospital. I gauged his response as I continued...I told him how much she loved him and that she desperately wanted to be his mommy, but more than that she wanted him to have a daddy, but wasn't married to a daddy.

Ty listened intently and asked, "Did she want to be my mommy for a long, long time?"

"Yes, she did, baby. Do you know how much God loves you? Miss Rebekah prayed and prayed to God asking for a family that would take good care of her baby. She wanted a family with a daddy and she wanted to make sure you would be taught all about Jesus. At the same time she was praying, I was praying that God would bring us a baby to love and take care of. Do you know what God did? He answered BOTH of our prayers and led Miss Rebekah to our family! Isn't that cool?"

"Yes, mom!"

I went on to tell him how we all celebrated the day he was born. I told him about all Rebekah's family and how they came to the hospital to see him and spend time with us. I stopped for a few seconds when I saw his mind turning. The words that came out of his mouth were so sweet I wish I could bottle them forever.

Ty said, "Mom. I want to thank Miss Rebekah for babysitting me in her belly and taking good care of me."

"Honey, I think that's a really good idea. We'll call her tonight."

Watching Ty fall in love with his first mom is more special than I can express...

21 comments:

  1. That is extremely precious. The love and reverence that he has for her is such a beautiful thing and comes from having such a healthy and open relationship between all of you. You are truly amazing!

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  2. Let me tell you how grateful I am for your words. Charlie and I were talking the other day about what we want to tell Jackson about Rachel (oh, did you know we finally got a baby?) and I love what you said about God answering the prayers of both mommies. I love how you express things to Ty and only hope that I remember those words. In fact, I may have to print it out and put it aside for him.

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  3. Bless his sweet little heart.

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  4. So wonderful! S is just starting to put things together recently too.

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  5. Darling!!! It must be this age because Declan has me "read" him this picture book we made of the time in the hospital and right after. He proceeds to tell anyone we see that day that "I was in Crystle's (his birth mom's) tummy!!)" It is fun for them to start to understand their story.

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  6. Just precious. Love that he can all his first mom, I wish we had that option. Love this whole journey :-)

    Heather

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  7. That makes me teary. You guys are doing such an awesome job teaching him about adoption, and his story. I love it.

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  8. Love that he's understanding his story :)

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  9. So so so sweet! Make me teary-eyed. What a blessing to have so much family to love you as a child!!!

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  10. Oh, that is so sweet. I often imagine those conversations with Jackson. I am going to love to watch him make sense of his story. Ty is just too sweet.

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  11. So precious! And so sweet the way he said she was babysitting him. Interesting to listen to our kids begin to understand their stories and verbalize them.

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  12. I have been following your blog for a long time, and just wanted to tell you what a great job I think you are doing. It really blesses my heart to see what health and maturity you navigate your childrens' adoptions with. I am an adult adoptee, and coming from a family that made my adoption taboo (with good intentions to "protect" me - but from what?!), I really admire and urge you to continue with your openness with your kids. I also love that you refer to Rebekah as Ty's "first" mom, instead of getting into such a mess of "real" mom vs.... fake one?! :) It really releases your children to not have to choose or pick which of you he is loyal to - it's just different. And it's also much more honouring to Rebekah.

    And as a side note - when you first posted new pictures of all of you, I was looking at the super cute one with all of your legs/feet, and I kept thinking, "I wonder which boy is which?!", since they are the same size. I didn't even notice the skin difference, because you all just belong together! My natural eyes didn't notice what God has put together in the spiritual.

    Blessings!

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  13. Gosh, its amazing to hear that: that you support love and care for the birth mom of your child. I know its God in you but gosh, I don't hear many mothers with that kind of security.....

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  14. I love this story. I t brings tears to my eyes. I am a birthmom in an open adoption and I adore my daughters parents. I too placed because I wanted her to have a dad. We are all Christians and our story is very similar to yours. It is painful but so worth it for my child and her life and future. Your blog is a blessing to read! I love what you wrote about God and adoption in 2009. May God bless you and your beautiful family he has blessed you with!

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