tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post8984654648394558317..comments2024-01-02T19:39:27.832-05:00Comments on Heart Cries: God is Good.Rebekahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-32222864953977927992010-09-16T21:59:30.859-04:002010-09-16T21:59:30.859-04:00Why do prospective parents have to pay so much mon...Why do prospective parents have to pay so much money to adopt a child?<br /><br />Because adoption is all about proving that in some way, shape or form that the adoptive parents are better than the biological ones.*<br /><br />If it wasn't about that, then adoption wouldn't need to exist. Let me put it this way: Who adopts a child from a higher standing class family into a *lower* one?<br /><br />So adoption is about creating a family - on the basis of a lower-class family.<br /><br />*Not referring to abused or neglected children...Mei Linghttp://sisterheping.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-53388875593050316552010-09-16T19:27:42.900-04:002010-09-16T19:27:42.900-04:00Honestly, if everyone who is spending thousands an...Honestly, if everyone who is spending thousands and thousands of dollars to get one child donated that money to struggling countries, the children in those orphanages could go to school, eat every day and grow up stronger. It's sad that the argument is how much it costs for one child when there are many more who need help.Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16968579258082745674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-3221530436046200672010-08-17T14:42:25.185-04:002010-08-17T14:42:25.185-04:00This a great post and one I needed to put my spiri...This a great post and one I needed to put my spirit in check. Thank you for sharing.Mazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16914742489846963185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-38748941017513056052010-08-16T18:49:14.926-04:002010-08-16T18:49:14.926-04:00All I want to say is that you have a beautiful hea...All I want to say is that you have a beautiful heart and God is certainly at work in your family's life. I have said this before again and will say it again...I am looking forward to seeing how our God will provide and expand your family. Nothing is impossible for Him.<br /><br />Lots of love.Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05254356331221159864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-46798856983558964502010-08-16T15:37:21.106-04:002010-08-16T15:37:21.106-04:00God is good, all the time! I'm not the same wo...God is good, all the time! I'm not the same woman I was when we started the process either. It's an interesting journey to parenting going through adoption, even if infertility wasn't an issue. It teaches us to value our families just a little bit more I think. <br />We're planning to foster to adopt for our next child and we've already had one or two situations come to our attention. It's the cost of those that makes it almost an immediate no but more then that it's the calling and plan God has placed on our lives that makes us say no. We know the path He's put us on and we're going to follow it. Sorry, I'm rambling about me. It's just nice to know we're not alone, that there are other mom's that feel the same way about sticking to God's plan for your family.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484607337052505871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-36816782532792540982010-08-16T11:31:40.799-04:002010-08-16T11:31:40.799-04:00okay, I just wanted to say that you had me at, &qu...okay, I just wanted to say that you had me at, "I'm ready to take the big girl panties off.." it took me a moment to grow up (quit giggling) and get back in the heart wrenching discussion. HUGS, be bold and corageous, He's got you!Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04199239034212280881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-48651258771581623942010-08-15T16:41:51.910-04:002010-08-15T16:41:51.910-04:00I know right? It sickens me, the amount of money ...I know right? It sickens me, the amount of money international adoption is. These children are free to be adopted, many without proper care, waiting for their forever family, and we can't do anything about it because of the price tag. <br /><br />I do understand adoption requires fees. It costs money to advertise, council, and give support to families. Once a friend mentioned how wrong she thought it was that adoption was so expensive. While I agree, it is way out of hand, I look around and think, "You bought a car for $25,000, but you wouldn't pay adoption fees?" <br /><br />I recently visited an adoption site where agencies posted available situations. This one particular agency posted they had twin Caucasian girls due in 4 weeks. The fee to adopt them was $60,000. Why? Because they were white and girls? Can you imagine if first families knew many adoption workers charged adoptive families based on the color of their babies skin/sex? Totally disgusting. If anything needs to change, that does. We live in America. No licensed business in the US should be able to charge adoption fees based on skin color or sex.Susannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02456956187534798673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-89414650981570659802010-08-14T22:01:12.108-04:002010-08-14T22:01:12.108-04:00There's a family in our town who decided to do...There's a family in our town who decided to do foster parenting. In a several year span they took in 10 kids, several of whom were newborns abandoned or taken away at the hospital. Usually the newborns would only stay a few months, but one stayed 3 years...they could have adopted several of them but only wanted to foster. So you never know what God has planned!Melrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08439670225934244188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-14031173538022225342010-08-14T21:04:38.880-04:002010-08-14T21:04:38.880-04:00I feel such a mixture of emotions when I read your...I feel such a mixture of emotions when I read your posts (this one especially). I hurt for you. For Me. For anyone with infertility who has to told when she can become a mom. I understand the burden of money associated with adoption, as we are still writing checks as our son has turned 7 months. <br />I also feel blessed and joyful that my relationship with Christ allowed me to walk through this valley hand in hand with Christ.<br /><br />God's plan for me has become more and more clear in these past months. As I look back, he was setting the stage for our son to become part of our family. Of course I don't know even the half of it. You can't see it, but God has big plans for you and Ben. Plans that involve a big family-I'm sure of it.ARosenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-52865639795819364102010-08-14T17:27:25.722-04:002010-08-14T17:27:25.722-04:00Hi Rebekah, it's Tracy T. I'm sorry that ...Hi Rebekah, it's Tracy T. I'm sorry that you're been through such a rough patch lately. Yes, infertility is a hard road to walk. I've seen this over and over in your posts and in the lives of several friends of mine. My adoptive mom once told me that she thinks that it was God's plan for her and my dad not to have biological childern and for her and my dad to adopt me and my brother and be a family. She says she dosn't think of us as her "adopted children" just as her children. I think that's why she had such a hard time ajusting to the fact that I could love two mothers and that my birth mother can not replace her. Any way- I don't think that you're selfish for wanting another newborn- maybe a little sister for Ty.<br />I can feel your pain as I read this post. Yes it just plain sucks that adopting a new born cost so much. On the other hand as I'd mentioned before, there is a family in my chruch who has adopted 5 children- four infants- the oldest was 6 month, I belive the two blond blue eyed biological siblings were placed with them right from the hospital and the little Native boy was a premie and thus very small- from foster care and the 14 year old AA was adpoted from a privat agenncy. I see them with dad frequently- the parents are divorced- and think what a blessing it is that foster care/ adption exists. I know that you and Ben will provide some very blessed children with a forever family and that will be such a blessing from God. <br /> Thanks for the reminder that God knows our hearts, our cries, our urges. I trust him too, but I'm strugeling with a tough issue- I won't go into detail here- and I needed to be reminded that God is with me even as I struggle and I cry and I tell Him how unfair the whole <br />ordeal is!!!! HUGS for you, Rebekah. I'll be praying for God to bring the children He has chosen for you and Ben and Ty at just the right time for you and for them as well!!webkinzfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06237681427243918680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-54815060119900686322010-08-14T15:58:48.739-04:002010-08-14T15:58:48.739-04:00I know this is crazy sounding but have you ever th...I know this is crazy sounding but have you ever thought of asking Rebekah to be a surrogate? I think that would be an awesome idea that would work out well for all involved. Is this something you have ever thought at all about?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-38153830712977975342010-08-14T09:31:50.938-04:002010-08-14T09:31:50.938-04:00You are such an amazing, Godly woman. I wish I co...You are such an amazing, Godly woman. I wish I could go through rough times with as much as grace as you!!! :) I totally understand the frustration of the cost of adoption. We saved and saved for our adoption expenses, but in the end, we wound up charging a VERY large amount so we could bring our daughter home. I felt so much resentment about having to go into debt just to have a child. We joke about hoping she is paid off before she starts college, but in the end, it is no laughing matter that adoption is so expensive. Our hope is to one day be in a financial position where we can help families that want to adopt but money is an obstacle.<br /><br />God bless you and your family!!!!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01644469600281156543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-25773689291366925182010-08-13T22:36:16.085-04:002010-08-13T22:36:16.085-04:00I think that you should definitely look at some ch...I think that you should definitely look at some child in the foster system as they need love too. You might get lucky and get a small child or two. I realize you would love to use the clothes again but you have had the newborn experience so why not help another child get out of the system and into a loving familyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-10196184287436407372010-08-13T16:53:17.630-04:002010-08-13T16:53:17.630-04:00Hi Rebekah, great post, and I'm heartbroken to...Hi Rebekah, great post, and I'm heartbroken to hear you've been through this experience. I am also furious when I hear about money changing hands for babies. It is actually illegal here through domestic adoption agencies. In fact we were not even permitted to give our girl's BM a gift as it could be perceived as her benefitting in some way. As another commented, there are some legitimate costs but paying the birth family should not be one of them. I love that you work through these things before you post. It still allows for great discussion but you can post knowing you followed your own hearts.Giantspeedbumphttp://www.loveyoualready.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-30015803197349041442010-08-13T15:07:21.312-04:002010-08-13T15:07:21.312-04:00God bless you...and I will be praying for you. God...God bless you...and I will be praying for you. God is good and will continue carrying you.... You know that poem "Footprints" ? Always a comfort....Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02798592699364200465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-57114021658490425082010-08-13T13:51:16.268-04:002010-08-13T13:51:16.268-04:00Rebekah, I always enjoy reading your posts. Thank...Rebekah, I always enjoy reading your posts. Thank you for being so open with us all! One thing I felt should be brought up. We just adopted a newborn African American baby boy. Here in Utah the agency we worked with is ALWAYS looking for families for AA babies. Yes, the cost is high. We are taking advantage of the tax credit and a grant through Show Hope. In your post I think you said that there would be 100 people lined up behind you to adopt a newborn. Here in Utah, anyway, that is not the case with AA babies. We were not aware of this need before it was shared with us this past winter, so wanted to make it known to the blog world, as well!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-51110386475113162792010-08-13T13:48:56.264-04:002010-08-13T13:48:56.264-04:00Rebekah - I think about those babies in orphanages...Rebekah - I think about those babies in orphanages, too and I wonder what God is thinking. They don't all get saved, but some do. I know that His ways are higher than mine, but I still don't get how he distributes such a precious thing as babies. But, like you, I look at Ty and I know He is good. Who else could have created such a wonder and given him (through many human means) to you and Ben. You have been faithful and He is cerainly faithful, too. Love you.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15163662759281341381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-8234869198556874092010-08-13T01:21:21.524-04:002010-08-13T01:21:21.524-04:00You have such a beautiful way of putting feelings ...You have such a beautiful way of putting feelings into words. Our first adoption came very quickly before we were financially ready. Remember those checks that come in the mail from your credit card companies? Let's just say that our debt ratio jumped quickly. I remember telling my husband "We made the last payment today". About 3 years later, we had a similar situation as you did. My emotions went from high to lower than low so quickly that I litterally broke out in hives. God had his plan though and his plan turned out to be 9 years after our first son. Again, his timing was perfect. There were so many signs that this was his will but we had to step out in faith. As soon as we signed the first paperwork to start the process, we received an unexpected refund from a house that we had sold. It "just happened" to be the same amount as the case study, etc. God is so good...all the time. He is using you to minister in a mighty way.THIS IS ME....ONLINEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10331386272927424929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-39264207913082942102010-08-12T23:47:32.134-04:002010-08-12T23:47:32.134-04:00Wow, Friend...big stuff here! I'm so sorry yo...Wow, Friend...big stuff here! I'm so sorry you had that situation come up and you had to say no. I too am so frustrated and disheartened about how money is so irreparably intertwined within adoption. It doesn't seem fair that money should be able to determine families but it does.<br /><br />Still, your spirit is strong and your heart and mind are open to the other things that are waiting for you around the corner. I can't wait to find out what those things are, right along with you. <br /><br />Hugs for you as you walk the walk...it's definitely not always easy, as you know!<br /><br />MelbaMelbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16058896619253076094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-77448310894980439592010-08-12T23:32:56.084-04:002010-08-12T23:32:56.084-04:00I believe God has a plan for you - God spoke to me...I believe God has a plan for you - God spoke to me and I became foster parent not knowing where that would lead but God showed me there is such a need for good foster parents. That are going to love the children and show them what families are made of. Think of the base you are giving the child - August 24th I will be adopting my foster daughter that I have fostered since birth she will soon be 3.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06349368885850526119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-44027254062200117742010-08-12T21:21:30.307-04:002010-08-12T21:21:30.307-04:00Thank you for posting this, Rebekah. We also passe...Thank you for posting this, Rebekah. We also passed on a match this summer. I have been having the same mixed feelings as you describe about adoption and it's cost, etc. I've been beating myself up and second-guessing our decision. It helps to know other couples are going through the same tough choices.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09205517261503710470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-17934795599714435222010-08-12T20:52:18.575-04:002010-08-12T20:52:18.575-04:00What an amazing beautiful post...thank you I neede...What an amazing beautiful post...thank you I needed this today! We also have began the adoption process and have been disheartened at the cost some agencies chart for adoption, it is so unfair. We too are trying to have faith in God that he will lead us to the child He wants us to parent. <br />You are such an inspiration, thank you!rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-66252098166754565012010-08-12T20:51:14.984-04:002010-08-12T20:51:14.984-04:00That was so well written!! Jer 29:11:) Thanks so...That was so well written!! Jer 29:11:) Thanks so much for sharing. Mollie LMollie Lloydnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-28873298988738419732010-08-12T19:14:53.534-04:002010-08-12T19:14:53.534-04:00First of all, I miss you! This post was beautifull...First of all, I miss you! This post was beautifully written! I truly miss talking to you in person about all these things and learning so much from you! Your blog is still one of my favorites to read for the main fact that it's 100% the real deal. I'll come visit soon! :)Don't Worry 'Bout A Thing...https://www.blogger.com/profile/18247426428509382400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-60099868554076881152010-08-12T18:51:12.268-04:002010-08-12T18:51:12.268-04:00So tough but keep pressing in, God will not lead y...So tough but keep pressing in, God will not lead you astray. You are doing an awesome job being a mom, wife, friend.... you get the picture. Enjoy each moment, they are fleeting.karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808043855262644667noreply@blogger.com