tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post1678510099440559879..comments2024-01-02T19:39:27.832-05:00Comments on Heart Cries: Being BarrenRebekahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-40309491981678993672012-06-24T21:02:31.468-04:002012-06-24T21:02:31.468-04:00I disagree with the poster who wrote this. I have ...I disagree with the poster who wrote this. I have both given birth and adopted. My pg was tough, I had pre e and 6 weeks of bed rest, ad had a hard delivery. But it was still a blessing to get to do. My daughter is adopted and being present for her birth was incredible, but I wished it were me.<br /><br />I wish all women could experience pg and birth, even though it is really hard.maydaygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03185053013310413873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-64584802020056184872012-06-24T03:29:26.315-04:002012-06-24T03:29:26.315-04:00Wow, I wish I had just a small level of the faith ...Wow, I wish I had just a small level of the faith you have. I empathise with your struggle though I couldn't possibly know what you are going through, I'm just glad you have stayed positive and it's worked out in the end, though obviously it is an ongoing process.w33bohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02359861125436077586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-20436226699186113902012-06-23T18:55:43.039-04:002012-06-23T18:55:43.039-04:00Oh how I hurt when I read your post. It was so des...Oh how I hurt when I read your post. It was so descriptive that I could again feel the heartache I went thru even tho it's been a number of years. I should have forgotten what I felt but it is so painful that it rises up even after all this time. Glad you shared.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-20911285711133162002012-06-20T20:33:17.274-04:002012-06-20T20:33:17.274-04:00Thank you for you being so honest. I can relate t...Thank you for you being so honest. I can relate to what you are saying!!! We have adopted two children after struggling with infertility for seven years, and it always amazes me the things that bring those emotions front and center again. Baby showers are still a huge thorn in my side. As much as I wish them away, this is our cross to bear and it helps keep me centered on Christ to be my strength, and helping me to understand, that God's plan for our life was to adopt these wonderful children which is such a blessing that many don't understand or would be able to do themselves. Thank you for sharing!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-2826067652440264502012-06-20T20:19:22.706-04:002012-06-20T20:19:22.706-04:00Just wondering how ty's birthday went.... look...Just wondering how ty's birthday went.... looking forward to hearing about it.<br /><br />cindieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-21954165484541424642012-06-20T04:10:39.623-04:002012-06-20T04:10:39.623-04:00I love your honesty; it's just one of the many...I love your honesty; it's just one of the many reasons I follow your blog! I also love that you're content and at peace with the road God has you on toward adopting your children. You are a noble and sweet woman!Joy@WDDCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709113785857792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-57868726137331958692012-06-20T01:42:06.194-04:002012-06-20T01:42:06.194-04:00I soooooo get this. I've walked both roads an...I soooooo get this. I've walked both roads and still believe growing your family through adoption is way harder than pregnancy/childbirth.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01644469600281156543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-51587501571227296392012-06-19T23:15:34.428-04:002012-06-19T23:15:34.428-04:00Although I do not know whether or not I am barren ...Although I do not know whether or not I am barren I can relate somewhat because I find myself in a stage that I do not want to be in and one in which I feel very much liek you at times and like some of your other readers....left out...single in my 30s. I hope you and others know I am not making light of being barren but I like you feel the excitement of answers of prayers for others (marriage, children, homes) but only moments later feel the full heaviness of my heart breaking. Wanting not only to be part of the married to my best friend club but also thought I would have several children of my own as well. I am sorry that there is no "easy" button but am encouraged by your honesty. Trying myself to choose joy (but currently not being successful) in the midst of being the only person I know out of all of my friends that is single and childless. Hoping that we will all find joy in whatever situations we find ourselves in and the true joy for others will overflowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-82089580853086740602012-06-19T20:53:42.465-04:002012-06-19T20:53:42.465-04:00Not having to actually birth my children is defini...Not having to actually birth my children is definitely on the "pro" side of being barren! Through barren eyes, pregnancy is only easy in terms of planning and growing a family. I've witnessed five births and know there is NOTHING easy about delivery time! :)Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-885942786150633202012-06-19T18:09:04.523-04:002012-06-19T18:09:04.523-04:00I can totally relate to this! It's so hard to ...I can totally relate to this! It's so hard to explain to others who have never walked this path, but I long for an "easy button" with our family planning. We've never had it. I often wonder what it's like to just be able to experience pure joy when it come's to planning for and having babies? How does it feel to be *surprised* that your family will be expanding and then in a short 9 months welcome a precious baby into the world? For me (as it sounds like for you) it's not about biology. It's about feeling broken and left out. It's about desiring an easier road when exhaustion hit's its peak.<br />But, then I look at my daughter and think, "I'd walk that road a thousand more times just to get to you" and I snap myself out of it, grateful for the life that God chose for us. Take that barren monster! ;)Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01791103718672105390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-57805749409379880962012-06-18T22:36:58.235-04:002012-06-18T22:36:58.235-04:00It's kind of funny to me that you talk about p...It's kind of funny to me that you talk about pregnancy being easy, but then, I'm a birth mom of two, only a hopeful future adoptee mother. We have not yet started the adoption process, but we plan to. And, what kickstarted it was my vaginal delivery of my 2nd child (1st was a c-section). As soon as he came out and we knew he was fine, my first words were "We're adopting the rest!!!". I'm not trying to disagree or minimize anything you said... and it's totally worth it.... but giving birth SUCKS!!!! A LOT. Maybe all I'm saying is, don't forget to throw in "skipped labor" on the "pro" side of the "I can't have kids" sheet :D.<br /><br />Keep being honest!!! I found your blog because I was looking for people's experience of adoption through foster care (what our current plan is), and I put you in my reader because I love how honest you are. Thank you :)Sarah :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11451196908202491802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-47392146159422685332012-06-18T00:16:20.364-04:002012-06-18T00:16:20.364-04:00Found your blog a long time ago but I think this i...Found your blog a long time ago but I think this is the first time I've commented. Went to the good ol' Gyn this week for the diary time since we stopped fertility treatments. In the meantime, we've adopted to gorgeous boys who fill my heart to overflowing. But... I know the very monster you're talking about. He grabbed me on the way out of that doctor's office. I saw a young couple on the elevator who had been to an appointment, happily chatting about finding out the baby's gender next month. I thought, "what is it like to have something that's just between you and your spouse? No lawyers, no social workers, no other parents. What it is like to have just the joy of a new child, without it coming at someone else's pain?" I love adoption & I know it's so close to God's heart. I'm thankful I'm an adoptive mom. Sometimes I wish the road to get to this point weren't so painful.Ashleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02623475886143133830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-66675139096654764632012-06-17T22:38:28.590-04:002012-06-17T22:38:28.590-04:00I'm praying for your family tonight :).I'm praying for your family tonight :).Melrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08439670225934244188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-11331124602731621142012-06-17T21:10:19.478-04:002012-06-17T21:10:19.478-04:00Even thought I am currently 3.5 months pregnant wi...Even thought I am currently 3.5 months pregnant with a miracle baby, I still resonate with the pain in this post. I am beyond blessed to have 5 year old B/G twins after infertility treatments and am pregnant again after 2.5 years of treatments, tears, adoption wait list, etc. Both my husband and I have very poor fertility, so we recongnize the hand of God when we see it. This was certainly not our doing.<br /><br />I guess the past that speaks to me is the idea of it being "easy." As in, before the Fall...before things got so horribly messed up.<br /><br />I spent 24 hours in the hospital in Feb. beside the bed of my friend who birthed her stillborn son. Perfect in every way, it was a placenta accident with no rhyme or reason. His name was Benjamin, and just like that, he was gone. I was honored to hold him for a very brief moment and whisper how much we all would have loved knowing him.<br /><br />Earlier this month, another friend buried her baby girl. It was a tragic amniotic fluid issue, and sweek Kaylee was gone.<br /><br />As a young girl contemplating getting married and having babies, I NEVER could have comprehended the minefield of heartache, pain and sorrow surrounding fertility, both for myself and my many, many friends. <br /><br />I just wanted to comment to say I love reading your blog, and thanks for sharing your heart. I am sure a lot more people read this and were touched...and I am sorry motherhood has not come easily for you. We really are on the wrong side of Heaven, aren't we?Krissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11983914941867961880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-46227440137426386812012-06-17T15:07:49.639-04:002012-06-17T15:07:49.639-04:00R---I really think when we are trying in our lives...R---I really think when we are trying in our lives, to do better to be happy to be strong, Satan will try to steal our joy. (Not that there is ANYTHING wrong with craving a biological child...or having sadness surrounding that). But I think Satan uses our insecurities and hardships to damper other areas of our lives---to hinder our progress, to steal our joy, to tear us down a little at a time. <br /><br />I have type I diabetes. I was diagnosed at age 24. My diagnosis made me face the choice: biological children or adopted kiddos? Even though we chose to adopt and not to have bio kids (assuming we could---we didn't try), there are still moments when I think, "Am I missing out on something?" "What if?" <br /><br />I get it. :)White Sugar Brown Sugar by Rachel Garlinghousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17573930066994411269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-17061612187039594322012-06-15T23:04:40.924-04:002012-06-15T23:04:40.924-04:00I can also relate to your feelings. I completely t...I can also relate to your feelings. I completely trust God and His plan for my family and I hate how discontent I feel sometimes about not getting to experience the miracle of pregnancy. It's a hard road to travel. Thanks for sharing your feelings.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10826913919163707391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-48100044159773318202012-06-15T23:01:19.170-04:002012-06-15T23:01:19.170-04:00Thank you for sharing. My BIL and SIL have been un...Thank you for sharing. My BIL and SIL have been unable to have a child and have been trying many things for some time now (>6 years). I know I will never fully understand what they are going through and how they are feeling, but I try to be compassionate and I want to be understanding and encouraging. Thank you for giving me a bit of understanding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-53023385831707530002012-06-15T20:26:42.892-04:002012-06-15T20:26:42.892-04:00Straight to my heart. I just can't believe how...Straight to my heart. I just can't believe how freeing those words are. And to have someone who "knows" say them? A blessing. I feel guilty feeling those things....and they are much better now that my sweet son is here, but it never, ever goes away. And people tell me all the time how "easy" is was for me....oh, thank you, thank you, thank you!!!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02116344019893896953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-51612581321546685482012-06-15T20:21:26.994-04:002012-06-15T20:21:26.994-04:00Straight. To. My. Heart. Thank you so much for put...Straight. To. My. Heart. Thank you so much for putting those feelings into words...they are as true as can be. Wow.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02116344019893896953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-50155577461480932892012-06-15T20:19:32.858-04:002012-06-15T20:19:32.858-04:00:):)Nati Andradehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039930233450152011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-7112073190798602412012-06-15T16:43:22.090-04:002012-06-15T16:43:22.090-04:00I get it....I'm in the same boat.
http://pati...I get it....I'm in the same boat. <br />http://patientlywaitingtobeamommy.blogspot.ca/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-87697775660979644922012-06-15T15:51:37.984-04:002012-06-15T15:51:37.984-04:00I don't know your reproductive situation, but ...I don't know your reproductive situation, but I have to tell you that after 15 years of marriage I had a baby through natural conception 3 1/2 months ago. To find out we were expecting is an understatement. We went through years of fertility treatments and were told I would never carry my husbands child. I am about to be 37 and had never had a pregnancy. We had been on the adopion list for a year when we found out I was pregnant. Now looking back I can honestly say the struggle and waiting had to happen for it to change almost every aspect of my life. Our greatest struggle became our greatest blessing and greatest opportunity to praise our Lord and that is the reason for everything we go through. You are such an inspiration to so many. <br /><br />Ashley MoonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-43254419677787799382012-06-15T11:27:03.483-04:002012-06-15T11:27:03.483-04:00Thank you for sharing this. We are still waiting ...Thank you for sharing this. We are still waiting for our child so I still have the twinges of those ugly feelings pop up. It got a little better when we left the IF treatments behind and moved forward with adoption. I am hoping it continues to get better once we find our baby. I have heard of moms that have been blessed with children despite their infertility struggles say that they still feel that horrible beast. It seems that the issue is more that it feels so unfair that we have to struggle for something that comes so easy to others...Kevin and Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15223321812802406827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-27450503652737266422012-06-15T11:24:28.219-04:002012-06-15T11:24:28.219-04:00Thank you for sharing this. I too feel the way yo...Thank you for sharing this. I too feel the way you do - like the beast has receded, but still shows its ugly self occasionally. We are still waiting for our child, so I hope it gets better once we become parents. I have heard other mothers that have been blessed with children despite their infertility struggles say that they still have those ugly feelings when they get pregnancy announcements, etc. I think that is a big part of it - we have to struggle so much to get what comes so easy to others...Kevin and Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15223321812802406827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-65671227879602902362012-06-15T10:45:20.913-04:002012-06-15T10:45:20.913-04:00Rebekah, I can also relate to you on this in so ma...Rebekah, I can also relate to you on this in so many ways. Thanks for writing what so many of us feel. I love how real and honest you are and enjoy seeing the many miracles God has performed in and through you because of it. I'm always blessed by reading your blog. :)Blogging For Adoptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05753965339288925614noreply@blogger.com