tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post8914832656953086825..comments2024-01-02T19:39:27.832-05:00Comments on Heart Cries: Day 401Rebekahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-53181345199252068892010-11-05T21:08:20.899-04:002010-11-05T21:08:20.899-04:00I LOVE this post. We met our daughter's birth ...I LOVE this post. We met our daughter's birth father yesterday and I wrote about it here...<br /><br />http://mommymattersblog.com/2010/11/meeting-my-daughters-birth-father.html<br /><br />So glad I'm not alone in my thoughts and feelings.Karin Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14516662405528660516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-85341831754506316392010-10-03T22:30:27.753-04:002010-10-03T22:30:27.753-04:00I'm just catching up on your story! Your words...I'm just catching up on your story! Your words hit so close to home. Not many of our friends understand the relationship we have with our son's birthfamily. But I too believe..who am I to deny such love in our son's life!Julie and Greghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08725539147287238252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-15605238686073629712009-06-10T16:20:42.777-04:002009-06-10T16:20:42.777-04:00I just stumbled across your blog and it has been s...I just stumbled across your blog and it has been so wonderful reading just a few of the posts I had time for today. This is one thing I wish we may one day have for our beautiful daughter. Right now we do not know her father, and we may never. We have an open adoption with her birthmom and she is truly a blessing in our lives. I completely understand the peace you have described here, I had the same peace during our short match with S's birthmom. God knew all along she was meant to be ours and I just had to be patient for her arrival! I wish you the best during the rest of your wait and I hope that your open adoption continues to flourish!Kelly Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14002273410619215866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-62317683455558584482009-06-07T14:10:36.289-04:002009-06-07T14:10:36.289-04:00I just found your blog today and have been reading...I just found your blog today and have been reading your story. I am the adoptive parent of a three year old boy who was adopted through the safe haven law. The birthmother chose a closed adoption and we have no contact information for my son's biological family. <br /><br />I know that many adoptive parents fear contact with the bio family and I just wanted to applaud and affirm your openness. We deeply desired an open adoption but that was not what God had planned for us. You are right on when you imply that there is no such thing as too many people who who want to love your child. <br /><br />When we got THE CALL about our son, we had very little info and had to decide immediately if we wanted to adopt him. I'll never forget the first thing my husband said: "The only reason to say no is fear." Fear not Rebekah. The more open you are, the more God will bless your efforts (although it may not seem like it sometimes, I'm sure).<br /><br />One of my big fears about adopting a child we knew little about was that he would have medical problems, etc. Just seven months after he was born, I gave birth to a bio-daughter with a severe heart defect that has required 7 surgeries. Despite my fears, she has been nothing but a delight. Fear not the unknown Rebekah!<br /><br />I will pray for the safe arrival of your little boy. I wrote a story for my son's second birthday, it is about adoption (and trees!). Take a look if you'd like :)<br /><br />http://ramonamae.com/2008/little-tree-a-birthday-story/<br /><br />Jane (www.ramonamae.com)Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10664882685484814551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-14719796725143381412009-06-05T22:51:51.773-04:002009-06-05T22:51:51.773-04:00In total agreement! WOW!!!
And Ben did say it bes...In total agreement! WOW!!!<br /><br />And Ben did say it best but that's what's so great about not being in control, but having God in control, because He is mature enough to handle anything and everything. *wink*Joy@WDDCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709113785857792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-1266672275260525172009-06-04T10:12:25.367-04:002009-06-04T10:12:25.367-04:00Incredible! This journey of yours is more amazing...Incredible! This journey of yours is more amazing every day. Just think how your family circle has expanded again. Baby boy will be SO loved!Mallorynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11914993188185068883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-65889426621003315872009-06-04T07:13:43.849-04:002009-06-04T07:13:43.849-04:00Good call with the family dinner. It will lay the...Good call with the family dinner. It will lay the groundwork for the future relationship and set his mind at ease about who you are. It will also provide a source of dialogue so when Baby Boy inevitably asks "what are my parents like?" you can give them a call or go meet up somewhere or just tell him that they're wonderful people that love him very much.<br /><br />Openness means you don't have to hide. he can be proud of his story in growing up knowing that he was loved so much that really good people found even better people to raise him!Dave Gerharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17329081460984021491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-43327000470201206402009-06-04T02:51:47.647-04:002009-06-04T02:51:47.647-04:00What a beautiful post. I don't know if I trust...What a beautiful post. I don't know if I trust God that much.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00662085097517296000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-30229372540405814442009-06-03T19:28:59.235-04:002009-06-03T19:28:59.235-04:00Kudos to you for opening your heart and having sup...Kudos to you for opening your heart and having supreme compassion.<br /><br />We recently introduced my daughter's birthfather into our lives. If you're interested, you can read about our experience -- the good and the bad -- here:<br /><br />Reunion in Open Adoption Series<br />* <a href="http://weebleswobblog.blogspot.com/2009/01/reunion-in-open-adoption.html" rel="nofollow">Part 1</a>: Considering Joe<br />* <a href="http://weebleswobblog.blogspot.com/2009/02/reunion-in-open-adoption-part-2-telling.html" rel="nofollow">Part 2</a>: Telling Tessa<br />* <a href="http://weebleswobblog.blogspot.com/2009/02/reunion-in-open-adoption-3-different.html" rel="nofollow">Part 3</a>: The horrible wait<br />* <a href="http://weebleswobblog.blogspot.com/2009/02/reunion-in-open-adoption-4-face-to-face.html" rel="nofollow">Part 4</a>: The meeting<br />* <a href="http://weebleswobblog.blogspot.com/2009/03/reunion-in-open-adoption-5-things-fall.html" rel="nofollow">Part 5</a>: Crash<br />* <a href="http://weebleswobblog.blogspot.com/2009/03/reunion-in-open-adoption-6-what-was.html" rel="nofollow">Part 6</a>: What was the whatLori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-76953178387588580092009-06-03T16:09:04.822-04:002009-06-03T16:09:04.822-04:00Dear Ben and Rebekah,
Oeee...my heart goes out to...Dear Ben and Rebekah, <br />Oeee...my heart goes out to you...i know this feeling of complete and utter love for a family you don't even know...<br /><br />What I do know and believe is that God have prepared us (and you) long before baby boy was to come into our lives. God sent my husband and myself to another country for 2 (two) very long years! to prepare us for our son's adoption. <br /><br />We had Kellen Christened 2 weekends ago and it was this huge thing within our families that we should not invite his paternal granddad who raised him for 18 months...I kept on getting this feeling that it will be the right thing to do...so I invited him...and he came! and for the first time in 9 months, Kellen's reaction towards his granddad was more than joy and happiness (as when he saw him in the past 9 months). Kellen was overjoyed! His granddad stayed with us in our home, sleeping in Kellen's bed...and he sat next to us in church...he was sad...but last week he phoned us and told us that we will never be able to imagine, even in our wildest dreams, how much this weekend, and what we told him, has changed his life. <br /><br />We told him that he did not loose a grandson/family when he had Kellen adopted, but that he gained a family through us all....and Rebekah...he was also adopted and he had a terrible experience, struggling his whole life...on the Sunday he said 'that one little boy can bring so many people together...it must be LOVE'...and he also said that we changed his view of what and how a family can be, he know now that he made the right decision to have Kellen adopted, that he is not feeling guilty any more...and then he said that he wished he had parents like Marcel and I....<br /><br />tears* sweet friend, for you are doing the right thing. I do believe that God already prepared you/us for our journeys...we can just keep on trusting HIm. <br /><br />I'm sooo excited for you!!! So very very excited!!!! <br /><br />It's sounds like a cliche....but holding a little boy in your /my arms, is the most amazing thing on earth! Together with a loving husband...Sweetie!! the best is yet to come! <br /><br />Big hug to you xxpERiWinKlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01360909259789189106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-45832612428683050842009-06-03T13:59:19.377-04:002009-06-03T13:59:19.377-04:00That is such a beautiful post. I nominated you for...That is such a beautiful post. I nominated you for an award, stop by when you can so you can see t.Lanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04166306419321322305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-64354581951474310792009-06-03T11:38:16.898-04:002009-06-03T11:38:16.898-04:00Your little boy is so, so, blessed. I would happil...Your little boy is so, so, blessed. I would happily go to a family dinner with my son's birth father or birth mother. I would happily meet them in person, get photos, talk on the phone. All that wasn't in God's plan for our little boy, and we're at peace with it, but I'm glad that your little boy will have all that. You won't have to worry about all the what ifs. You can pick up the phone and call one of them if you have a question. I spent 6 months waiting in fear just for the termination, worrying about the birth parents. People talk about how open adoption is best for the kids and birth parents, but they don't seem to talk about how much better it is for the adoptive parents. Open adoption limits or eliminates that kind of crazy situation I was in and is so much healthier. Yeah, sometimes it is a sacrifice, but the alternative can be a sacrifice, too. When you don't know something, the imagination often makes it much worse than reality.HappyAutisticMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07155037824384409624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-16969747766460172362009-06-03T10:20:22.298-04:002009-06-03T10:20:22.298-04:00It is amazing the faith that you have, and wonderf...It is amazing the faith that you have, and wonderful you have let it sustain you through this process.<br /><br /> I have a open adoption with our birthmother's and there families, it is something I have cherished. It is God putting us all together. People have asked me isn't that strange? No, it was how it was meant to be. We enjoy having them in our life, it just wouldn't be the same without them. I wish we could know the birthfather however, at this time it hasn't been a option, we don't know where he is. But I would love to meet him, he is the father of my girls. Knowing him would be knowing my girls better. <br /><br />Baby Boy will be so lucky to know he is loved in such a big way:)Little Grins and Giggles Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03218918163082761620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-27592046326469335462009-06-03T09:13:05.666-04:002009-06-03T09:13:05.666-04:00My eyes are brimming over w/ the truth of your wor...My eyes are brimming over w/ the truth of your words. We have three children, all through very open adoptions - mostly w/ their first mothers. We had the honor last year of finally meeting after almost 4yrs, our oldest daughter's birth father. Our willingness to be open to him was just as instantaneous as yours - and the ONLY explaination is our relationship with the Lord. <br />People around us, even family members, couldn't understand our love for this man - but it truly is beyond any human capabilities. It is only obediance to our God and a true belief that this was the best, right thing and a surrender to the Holy Spirit that enabled us to invite him into our lives.<br />We are still, even after 5yrs of doing this and 3 children, questioned by those around us. I truly believe adoption is a calling - especially open adoption, which I also truly believe is how God intended adoption to be if at all possible.<br />Continue being led by Him. I always tell others what a tremendous honor, and blessing it is for us to be part of open adoption. It is miraculous - you are in for a great adventure!<br />blessings!aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09674091458819182450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-24599149907629810072009-06-03T00:51:24.256-04:002009-06-03T00:51:24.256-04:00Perfect ending to your post...love never fails.
...Perfect ending to your post...love never fails. <br /><br />I really don't even know what to say, except that I totally get what you are saying here, and it is beautifully stated as usual! <br /><br />ALL of adoption has been a tremendous act of faith for me, more than anything else. Faith in knowing that it will work out the way it should. <br /><br />I also know exactly what you mean about dealing with things way beyond your maturity level. I think most of parenting is like that, so maybe these experiences are precursors for you.<br /><br />I am so glad your heart is at peace, and I really am beginning to be unable to wait much longer to see you with that baby boy!! <br /><br />Hugs,<br /><br />MelbaMelbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16058896619253076094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-41876868246450353622009-06-03T00:17:03.056-04:002009-06-03T00:17:03.056-04:00wow and wow! Your story mirrors mine in so many wa...wow and wow! Your story mirrors mine in so many ways I LOVE reading your blog and catching up. I remember after DJ was born, we told our family and friends that we were all going over H's mothers house for a big family dinner. Most people thought I was NUTS! But 6 days after DJ was born we went and met the WHOLE family and had a wonderful evening together. At no point did I ever feel that DJ was not 100% ours! They made sure of it. They made us feel comfortable, loved and welcome. I know you and Ben and baby boy will have the same experience...<br /><br />By the way...I LOVE that song...one of my FAVES!Doripinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06938105191789354587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-23147286688963902552009-06-02T23:26:30.172-04:002009-06-02T23:26:30.172-04:00You, your husband, and this story...Amazing.You, your husband, and this story...Amazing.Barefoot Studios Ok, LLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05878643480020021342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-18744710022871628672009-06-02T23:19:34.862-04:002009-06-02T23:19:34.862-04:00That happens to be our wedding verse!! I LOVE it, ...That happens to be our wedding verse!! I LOVE it, and LOVE how it applies to the adoption process...<br /><br />You two are such a neat couple...you put things into perspective for so many people out there struggling through their time of "waiting" I try not to be overwhelmed with the possibilities of what could happen, in regards to openness...and just pray that I have to strength, and trust in <br />God to go with the flow! Thanks again!!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09475601725922417227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-32077682569777153792009-06-02T22:56:49.291-04:002009-06-02T22:56:49.291-04:00Thank you for putting me in check "spirituall...Thank you for putting me in check "spiritually". This post was beautiful, you are one classy couple and I'm so happy God led becky to you!<br />CindieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-23513072117199311052009-06-02T20:57:58.947-04:002009-06-02T20:57:58.947-04:00Rebekah, your faith will continue to see you throu...Rebekah, your faith will continue to see you through. God is good, and it will all fall into place. I'll continue to keep all concerned in my prayers!Jodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10960065826710834062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-36562395690608820002009-06-02T20:52:25.279-04:002009-06-02T20:52:25.279-04:00Bravo, Rebekah! Just so you know, your love for a...Bravo, Rebekah! Just so you know, your love for all people just drips from your words... all the time!!<br /><br />You will encounter people being afraid of open adoption a lot. It is different and most people are afraid of that. I am too, sometimes. It might be a little awkward and uncomfortable for awhile, but in reality, most relationships are to a certain extent. The goal is to get beyond that.<br /><br />Our adoption is not as open as yours, but your story is truly inspiring to all of us. It can work. It does work (although obviously not in all situations)!!Brihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15827049920771791750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-78848787955728032152009-06-02T20:21:08.125-04:002009-06-02T20:21:08.125-04:00I'm so glad that your conversation went so well. ...I'm so glad that your conversation went so well. What a great post.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530698884712393184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-68002112959600467122009-06-02T18:45:19.642-04:002009-06-02T18:45:19.642-04:00This is the most fantastic post I have read in awh...This is the most fantastic post I have read in awhile...on any of the blogs I follow. <br /><br />You are an inspiration to me and I feel so much more secure in my ease and trust with God's will with our DIA as I follow you and read about your story. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your heart...and I am praying for you and Ben as you get ready to welcome Baby into your lives!<br /><br />~nicole<br />allgrownupNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03929532974271442167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-81199260326698656952009-06-02T18:38:16.514-04:002009-06-02T18:38:16.514-04:00GOOD FOR YOU AND I'M GLAD THAT ALL THIS OPENNESS I...GOOD FOR YOU AND I'M GLAD THAT ALL THIS OPENNESS IS FEELING SO GOOD FOR YOU! YOU ARE VERY BRAVE AND YOUR FAITHFULNESS IS AMAZING!Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11064113501129840818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-74906463946053376882009-06-02T16:13:27.298-04:002009-06-02T16:13:27.298-04:00Wow. Isn't it amazing to bond 2 (or 3 or 4) famili...Wow. Isn't it amazing to bond 2 (or 3 or 4) families? Your son will always be loved sooo much. I tell people that no one gushes over Decs as much as we and his birth parents do. It's amazing.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08652393990188112020noreply@blogger.com