tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post2125850430893639339..comments2024-01-02T19:39:27.832-05:00Comments on Heart Cries: Adoption is UglyRebekahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-32737342536964935732016-12-06T19:02:57.397-05:002016-12-06T19:02:57.397-05:00Oh goodness, this is heartbreaking. Thank you for ...Oh goodness, this is heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing the honest and hard. Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10826913919163707391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-17912943340974129902016-12-05T19:48:04.837-05:002016-12-05T19:48:04.837-05:00This post was beautiful and truly terrifying. Bei...This post was beautiful and truly terrifying. Being a birth mother myself I fear the day my baby boy starts understanding and feels heart break over it. Still, I am thankful for adoptive parents, such as yourself, who love unconditionally and unselfishly. I will be praying for your family!Terra Leighhttp://trulyterraleigh.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-56854899913927662362016-12-01T10:36:09.103-05:002016-12-01T10:36:09.103-05:00Heartwrenching....I guess the lesson to be learned...Heartwrenching....I guess the lesson to be learned is that if any of your children should ever face parenthood before marriage, you offer every support so that they can stay together and that neither they,nor your grandchildren have to face that kind of anguish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-20573136246534243912016-11-26T23:33:16.812-05:002016-11-26T23:33:16.812-05:00We adopted our son at 14 and it is still challengi...We adopted our son at 14 and it is still challenging seeing his birth family. He loves us as his family but he loves them too... he is in a difficult place... the love u give them will never be forgotten.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05874194455810398946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-89880601915800434982016-11-19T09:01:21.528-05:002016-11-19T09:01:21.528-05:00Thank you for sharing this. Many people don't...Thank you for sharing this. Many people don't realize that adoption can become harder as a child gets older. This is a great reminder for parents to learn about the developmental stages of an adopted child. For some children, the unknown about their birth families is one of the hardest things to understand, your children are lucky that you allow them to know as much as you do about their history. Lewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-14541578595002384222016-11-17T01:53:24.474-05:002016-11-17T01:53:24.474-05:00Thank you for sharing. Our agency doesn't do o...Thank you for sharing. Our agency doesn't do open adoptions and in fact acted as if it's not possible in our country, which it actually is. So anyway, we tracked our one child's birth mom down and needless to say, she also wanted more contact. I always hate the pain she must be feeling. It's hard. It's hard. But better than it being closed.Titus 2 Thandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682041725252115845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-38490669590641393662016-11-16T08:56:02.150-05:002016-11-16T08:56:02.150-05:00I am sitting at my desk waiting for my girls choir...I am sitting at my desk waiting for my girls choir to come storming through the door and I am sobbing. You put into words so much about adoption. Both my children are adopted and we have lost contact with my african american son's birthmom. But he has asked about her so much lately (he is almost 6). She is part of us and adoption is hard. My son loves both of us. She is a part of our family. <br /><br />Thank you for your writing and your heart. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11106476294326018624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-41761563672725105382016-11-15T12:14:31.076-05:002016-11-15T12:14:31.076-05:00No one really seems to talk about this part. Then ...No one really seems to talk about this part. Then again, many adoptions seem to be closed. One day, when he matures, he may understand what a blessing it is to not be closed off from her, unsure of who his birth mother is like so many other adopted children. I'm so sorry this was a hard goodbye. <3Joy@WDDCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709113785857792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-49742481373604961002016-11-14T17:48:52.027-05:002016-11-14T17:48:52.027-05:00Thank you so much for your honesty. It helps to kn...Thank you so much for your honesty. It helps to know that it isn't all rainbows for other families. I am a foster mom. I struggle. Kiddo struggles. Birth mom struggles. It is worth it but man it is tough.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00798040040328818877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-27629885213690088502016-11-14T14:49:37.478-05:002016-11-14T14:49:37.478-05:00Thanks so much for sharing. I have also adopted a...Thanks so much for sharing. I have also adopted a child and find it so hard to navigate the sadness and the happiness associated with this great gift. The Loss associated with this process is not often written about and you have done it so eloquently.Elena Doucettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09139362975028870121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-63085020744689455132016-11-14T14:32:05.941-05:002016-11-14T14:32:05.941-05:00Loving others is hard. I think we all forget that ...Loving others is hard. I think we all forget that at times (I know I do) and then we're reminded while reading a post like yours. Ty is learning that at such a young age. I cried while reading your words, mostly because of Ty's reaction to his first mom's departure. That kind of pain is because of love. I'm not sure why loving comes at such a high cost, but I guess it all goes back to God's love for us. The kind of love that caused Jesus to die for us. Describing only the joy of Rebekah's visit to your home would have been easier. Instead you gave us an honest reminder that with adoption (even those as loving and open as this one) comes great pain. Kathy Langhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257117408919075284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-81317234606569878502016-11-14T11:55:36.918-05:002016-11-14T11:55:36.918-05:00Thanks for sharing. Ripped my heart out. How I l...Thanks for sharing. Ripped my heart out. How I long for a similar relationship with our son's birth-mom. We're getting there...slowly...hopefully.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-60719946331415227722016-11-14T08:42:43.614-05:002016-11-14T08:42:43.614-05:00This truly broke my heart. I'm a first mom. I ...This truly broke my heart. I'm a first mom. I can't imagine how painful it is to live so far from each other. My boys never left my county. :(Victoria Gallegoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05543578884929358014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-71728868288038705232016-11-14T08:38:29.410-05:002016-11-14T08:38:29.410-05:00I have no doubt that long term, it is good that he...I have no doubt that long term, it is good that he is able to work some of this pain out at this age.<br /><br />My heart aches. MamaFosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-54737390438256783362016-11-13T23:45:49.462-05:002016-11-13T23:45:49.462-05:00My girl is only 18 months and this isn't part ...My girl is only 18 months and this isn't part of our reality yet as I hear her giggle in the living room with her Daddy. Thank you for sharing this and hopefully preparing me just a bit for what is to come. The only other thing I can say is, how lucky is that boy to know THAT much love. Hug him once for me.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06229701306825553727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7712476185050900324.post-27544336615605715432016-11-13T22:04:31.408-05:002016-11-13T22:04:31.408-05:00Beautiful and heart wrenching. Thank you for shari...Beautiful and heart wrenching. Thank you for sharing your story. Prayers for Ty as he continues to process all of this. You are doing a great job Mama. Ginnie W.noreply@blogger.com